One Question To Ask Yourself Before He Proposes
With Valentines Day around the corner, you see the typical gifts stocked in every store. Many women can expect to receive these token gifts: flowers, a box of chocolates, or a card. Some hope for something more meaningful this season: a small jewelry box containing an engagement ring, the symbol of moving their relationship to the next level.
Being proposed to is such a memorable occasion for anyone. My husband surprised me with a traditional military saber arch with him kneeling at the end, with ring in hand, and a simple question that changed my life forever. Even if he wasn’t the one for me, it would have been hard to say no to such a proposal. Accepting it was truly the best choice I have ever made.
Unfortunately, for many, the joy of this event disappears as the hype of the wedding dies down and real life begins. All too often, women forget about another important question they should have answered before they were proposed to: “Is he the one?”
Today, lots of couples choose to slide instead of decide in their relationships. They become acquainted with one another and like each other enough to go out. When nothing better comes along, they continue to stay with each other. After a while, they realize they’ve gotten along okay together and decide to move in together. Sooner or later, they get married for similar reasons. It’s just easier to move the relationship forward than it is to move on and let go, opening the door for a better relationship for the both of them. Through it all, they never stopped to ask, “Is this the right one for me?”
Believe it or not, studies show that those who live together before marriage have a higher chance of divorce. Why? I think it is because of this very reason. Instead of making a conscious decision on their compatibility, these couples slid into marriage by default.
This doesn’t have to be you. As you wait for him to pop the question, take time to an equally important question. Decide if he really is the right one for you. It will make all the difference in how you remember his proposal ten years from now.
How can you honestly know if he’s the right one? You’re heart it too caught up in everything to make any sort of logical decision. And your friends and family all are biased in one way or another. What you need is an impartial process to guide your heart. Unbiased information, compatibility tests combined with an honest evaluation of the relationship is a good way to start answering this question and knowing what to do this February 14th.
